Is there truly a real “after”? I get asked this question all the time. My answer is of course there is an “after” you just need to decide how you want to play it and dance with it in your life.
Recently I watched a really nasty string of comments appear on a breast cancer group that states they want respectful comments, nothing gets deleted, and yet the moderator allowed things to get disrespectful and there were some deleted comments. I know I printed the entire thread out because I wanted to look at the anger that was being written in closer detail. I went back to check on things a couple days later and found a status update that asked who or what the group wanted to go after that very day. Seriously?
I will never belong to a group that spews anger because I don’t play the song of anger and I won’t dance to it. Anger is a killer in many respects, but a cancer patient that needs all the T-cells they can produce should be running from anger as fast as they can. Anger kills T-cells, T-cells kill cancer cells. I am a T-cell cheerleader. I get anger, I also get letting go of anger. There are so many wonderful ways to do that and one way in my humble opinion is to spend more time looking at positive things on line than allowing T-cells to die.
The page I write on Facebook is a safe page, there is a no anger zone, and anyone who brings it will be banned immediately. I can do that without a shred of an angry moment because no one is taking me there. How is your “after” shaping up these days?
A new book by Linda Morin, a double mastectomy survivor who lives in Ottawa, Canada, takes a look at the theme of “is there life after cancer.” It was published on Oct. 1 and is entitled “The Courage to Look Beyond.”
Like most women who lose one or both breasts, Linda was ashamed of her body and could not look at herself in the mirror, let alone be seen naked by a partner. The turning point for her occurred in January 2010 at the Hippocrates Health Institute in West Palm Beach, Florida. While being examined by a doctor in front of 75 people, she lifted her top and showed the crowd her body.
Jaws dropped and audience members praised Morin for her courage. At that point, her life took a positive turn. She realized that she was still attractive and whole despite losing her breasts; she embraced her body, and soon began helping other women scarred by cancer and other diseases.
Linda’s web site is: http://www.lindamorin.ca It’s work a look.