Is there truly a real “after”? I get asked this question all the time. My answer is of course there is an “after” you just need to decide how you want to play it and dance with it in your life.
Recently I watched a really nasty string of comments appear on a breast cancer group that states they want respectful comments, nothing gets deleted, and yet the moderator allowed things to get disrespectful and there were some deleted comments. I know I printed the entire thread out because I wanted to look at the anger that was being written in closer detail. I went back to check on things a couple days later and found a status update that asked who or what the group wanted to go after that very day. Seriously?
I will never belong to a group that spews anger because I don’t play the song of anger and I won’t dance to it. Anger is a killer in many respects, but a cancer patient that needs all the T-cells they can produce should be running from anger as fast as they can. Anger kills T-cells, T-cells kill cancer cells. I am a T-cell cheerleader. I get anger, I also get letting go of anger. There are so many wonderful ways to do that and one way in my humble opinion is to spend more time looking at positive things on line than allowing T-cells to die.
The page I write on Facebook is a safe page, there is a no anger zone, and anyone who brings it will be banned immediately. I can do that without a shred of an angry moment because no one is taking me there. How is your “after” shaping up these days?